Are you a man attracted to transsexuals male to female? Have you had sex with a trans? Have you experienced an after-sex sense of guilt? Indeed, if you landed on this page, you maybe be seeking some answers to these questions. Chances are, you may also ask yourself if you are Gay because you had sex with a trans or simply because you feel attracted to them.
I have been a man attracted to transsexuals since I was a teen; all these feelings are familiar to me. And usually also common thoughts to those who are at their first experiences or yet “virgin” (sexually speaking). Today, I’ve overcome all my insecurities and don’t bother myself anymore with those questions.
Today, I live happily with my transgender girlfriend as all couples in love do.
Some define me as a trans lover or trans-oriented man because I date trans women, and my GF is trans.
And no, I do not consider myself gay for being in a love relationship with a trans woman, and you shouldn’t as well.
And here is why
I Like Trans Women, Am I, Gay?
Many who feel attracted to transsexuals (and not only), also called “the third sex” worldwide, believe it is something gay or homosexual. Because transgender women were born males, some may still have their native genitalia. The same assumption also goes for those who are not interested in dating transgender and label such men as attracted to trans women.
In reality, the major part of persons who like to date transsexuals, are mostly straight guys (hetero).
According to the statistics, men feel attracted to feminine transgender for their female manners and because they look like women. On the other hand, most of gay males are attracted to the manly “Alpha Male” and the typical man behaviour. With rare exceptions, most gay men are NOT attracted to trans women. Some gay men may feel curious about trans women and look for a trans as an occasional partner.
The trans-oriented man or trans lover is mainly charmed by things such as sexy dresses, high heels, feminine grace, and hot curves, and not because a trans look like a man. Some may still have the male genitals, but this is just part of their being and doesn’t make her gay or you. Trans women live as women 24/7, and trans lover sees them as females.
For these reasons, if you are attracted to transex women, indeed, you are not gay.
If that does not satisfy you yet, see next!
Do Trans Women Consider Trans Lovers Gay?
Depending on which place of the world you are living and with who you are talking, you will happen to meet people who disagree with what was stated above, Including trans women. On the other hand, you will also happen also to meet transgender ladies who agree with it.
Here is one.
NOTE: The beautiful girl you have just seen in the video, Maki Gingoyon, lives a happy love story with her French boyfriend, committed to emancipating the society about LGBT matters.
But perhaps, she may look more familiar to you for being also one of the Admin at My Ladyboy Date project, a specialised dating site for trans women.
Back to the theme, you will always find different opinions and controversy on the subject: Men Attracted to Transsexuals.
However, I will answer some of the earlier questions, or better, help you answer yourself!
How arises the so-called trans attraction?
It is like the adage that “everything rare is valuable”, and the statistics say that:
1% of the world population is transgender
And if you do not live in the countries with the highest concentration of transgender, like South-Center America or South-East Asia, the chances of meeting trans women are minimal. Their rarity in some places around the world surely makes trans women much more desirable.
And then, there is the shemale porn on the internet
A very common place where usually men to see transgender ladies nowadays for the first time. The sex industry, throughout the years, has exploited more and more the androgyny image of trans girls. For example, names such as shemale, tranny or trannie, and ladyboys are often used in the porn industry. And if you watched the above video, you know it targets a straight audience.
Anyways, the ts porn on the internet is surely one of the major media that triggers curiosity and sexual fantasies about trans women.
And with the boom of cyber sex live cam chats with trans in recent years has exponentially increased the interest of men in transsexuals.
This is usually typical for the so-called “trans admirers”
And then, there is the trans lover
I Am Attracted To Transsexuals
There is no real profile that defines a trans lover or trans-oriented man. He can belong to any age, social class and different walks of life. A trans lover is not to be mistaken for an admirer, who usually only fantasises about transsexuals but never comes out of the closet. While a trans lover, at some point, breaks free and finally gets to date trans women and possibly finds a ts girlfriend.
Trans lovers usually do seek those feminine, perfectly passable and beautiful transgender. For passable, it is intended a trans such feminine in the look and manners to be indistinguishable from a genetic female.
As a fact, the most successful trans actresses in adult movies are very feminine and beautiful. That’s evidence that the majority of men are attracted by their feminine side, unlike gay men. On this note, have a look at what makes men date transgender, at this link.
When a man becomes Trans Lover
Some case studies revealed the following general data
- A consistent part of trans-oriented are straight men divorced or still married. Usually disappointed by the marriage with genetic women, leads them to look for new alternatives, where transexuals are not considered as homosexual evolution.
- Rare cases had homosexual experiences earlier.
- A typical case. After the first sexual experience, there is a progressive loss of interest and desire for genetic females.
- Usually, a man attracted to trans women does not become homosexual over time.
- Men who feel attraction to transsexuals do not seek them to satisfy a repressed or growing homosexuality.
The best advice I feel to share with you, don’t bother too much about others’ opinions.
What really matters, is your happines! Don’t allow the other’s bigotry to prevent you finding your happines. If you feel that having a transgender girlfriend is what makes you really happy, then you should defently date a transgender!
If transsexuals are extraordinary women, the trans-oriented men are as well
Transex Models: Marcela Ohio & Felipa Tavares
Photographer: Carlos Dalessio